oh grow up

So, I finished the book, but I feel as if I was kidnapped and victimized by Brockmann's skill as a writer. I am not a writer but that seems to be a pretty big complement *g*. The post is by a LyndaX at aar. The complaint itself, regarding violence in romance isn't a new one. But can we as readers, blame an author, because we read their book? And who gets to set the rules? Who gets to say, okay no one cross this line because it upsets me. If you read the last line in the post, the reader is tossing her hair and storming out of the message board to go email the author and the publisher. My question is why? What would you hope to accomplish with that? Of course I feel the same way about violence in romance as I do about bad bad words. Although I did love harlequin's response to one of the posters. I complain about the lack of westerns and the smaller numbers of historicals. But in saying this I am not trying to take away books other people are reading and enjoying. Have you ever emailed or snail mailed an author? What moved you to write? What kind of response can you give or expect from saying 'your books are too violent, dirty, fill with naughty words, so forth and so on'? I think I would write back saying grow up and don't buy anymore of my fucking books. Which is one more reason why it is a good thing I don't write *g*.